Most Common Mistakes That Lead To Break Ups

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It seems pretty obvious that certains things – like adultery or constant lying – may become the fastest way to relationship break-up. But there also might be slight nuances that seem totally innocent at the first glance, but may turn into a tragedy in the long run. Make sure you avoid these mistakes with your partner, otherwise inevitable break-up will be just a matter of time.


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Pointing out your partner’s mistakes

Does he always forget to put his dish into the dishwasher after dinner or put down the toilet seat cover? Does she wear those ugly jeans underlining the flaws of her body or laugh too loud? These things may irritate you a lot, but try not to be very categorical in pointing them out. Keeping your feelings a secret is also a bad idea – sooner or later your face will show your irritation better than any words, and this will be even less flattering to your partner. Try to concentrate on some positive stuff instead: this will be good for both your relationship and your personal emotional health.

Speaking ill of your partner behind their back

Trust and unconditional support are the main principles of a strong and healthy relationship. If you believe the person you love has done something wrong you should discuss it with them, do not turn it into a matter of public discussion. One’s right to refuse testifying against a spouse in court is confirmed by law, so those doing it voluntarily are on the right way to divorce. Keep all your family skeletons in your wardrobe and do not let anyone inside. Try to avoid discussing your personal life details with third parties at all, even if your have something good to share think twice before you do it: there are very few people who can be 100% happy for you, others will feel nothing but jealousy.

Not putting yourself in your partner’s shoes

Empathy is one of the principal features that makes a human different from animals. You will never understand how another person feels or why they behave this or that way before you put yourself in their shoes. Does it upset you that your husband always works till late? Imagine yourself all tired and nervous after a long exhausting day; how would you feel about another exhausting scandal at home? Would you rather spend another hour trying to explain what took you so long or would you rather have a calm romantic dinner with a person who loves and, which is even more important, understands you?

Disability to stop in the middle of a fight

When you are in the middle of a huge fight with your partner take a moment and ask yourself a single question: is the matter you are fighting over worth everything you’ve built together so far? Because if you do not learn how to manage your emotions you might lose it all one day. There are no problems that cannot be solved in a peaceful way, speaking quietly about your problems is always the best solution. ALso, emotional scandals often turn into physical fights, which is a clear sign of a sick dying relationship.


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Provoking fights every now and then

You’ve had a tough day and need to splash out your negative emotions? Do you think your partner is the best object for this? Quite often people we love the most are the first victims of our bad mood, even if they have absolutely nothing to do with the problems we are so mad about. Sometimes you need to hide your emotions. But even if the person is somehow guilty try to think of a better way to solve the problem, scandal is not always the best or the only way out. And again, think twice which is more important for you – demonstrating your irritation or insulting your partner and jeopardizing your relationship.

Pretending your are totally fine in the middle of a fight

Fight is the last thing you should try to solve any problems you have with your partner. But if one happens and there is no way back to a quiet constructive conversation, make sure you are its active participant. Pretending you are alright when you are obviously not looks like you are just not willing to solve the problem or share your real feelings – this all looks like you just do not care. If you were fine the fight would never happen, so do not try to hide it, your face will give you out anyway.

Postponing problems solution

No relationship is absolutely perfect. Everyone has issues, and the sooner you face them the more chance you have to save your marriage. Once you encounter a problem try to solve it as soon as possible, it will never disappear on its own. You might temporarily forget about some issues as others appear, but one day they will all come to the surface together turning years of silence into a huge scandal with all the negativity suddenly coming up. This may be a point of no return for your marriage, so every time you decide to hide your real feelings in favor of a calm evening remember that one day this will come up anyway, possibly multiplied by many-many times.

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